Thursday, September 28, 2006
Self-deprecation rules ok!
So why do we poke fun at ourselves? Is it a form of self-preservation? If I say it then others won't say it, or think it, behind my back. Or is it because I can say these things without fear of upsetting anyone, because I'm the only one who could take offence?
And what I've also noticed, is that there's always at least one character in my ms with the same trait.....
What about you? Do you regularly give your characters a trait of yours?
Sorry - couldn't resist. But actually I don't think I do make my heroines like myself because they are lot braver, louder, cheekier and more adventurous than I could ever be. Well, saying that, in my mind I'm all of those things (including the tall, slim and gorgeous bit!!!!). So perhaps I just make them into the me I would like to be???!!!
Mine are usually. They come from very complicated, even criminal families. Their lives are filled with alcoholics and tough guys and bookies and leg-breakers--much like my own childhood. And my heroines are tough, passionate, and beyond all else, loyal. They are also usually smart-mouthed . . . and their IQ is usually off the charts. BUT . . . they are usually the "me I used to be." I.e., since I became a mother, and a Buddhist, my path is now much more peaceful. But being as BOOKS are about CONFLICT, they are usally a reflection, tiny bits, of my former self. Not the me I am now. If that makes sense.
They do think of the quips faster though, and they have the perfect, timely comebacks...something I always wished I could do better.
I try to make all my characters unique, but I think certain aspects of me are in all of them...
But my whole family is VERY into self-deprecating humor; we used to have dinnertime contests to see who could tell the best story of something dumb they did that day.
Unfortunately, not everyone gets this type of humor, which I discovered when my 5th grade teacher suggested I needed therapy to combat my low self-esteem. I had some issues when I was ten, but low self-esteem wasn't one of them :)
Thanks for all your comments guys, I feel a bit more normal now hahahahaha